The other day we had a young newly married couple over at our house for dinner. First the husband walked in and then the wife. The moment she walked in, it seemed like I was seeing a vision. Such a beautiful girl! Skin as fair as you could imagine, black shiny hair, translucent skin, totally blemish free, long fingers. To add to this, she knew exactly how to apply make-up and was wearing a very fashionable sari. She walked in and I could've looked at her the whole eveving long except that I couldn't since that would be rude and I was the host.
I can't remember having blemish free skin- ever. Never ever. It's bothered me for so long that I could never have a clear face. And then when I meet someone who has such a perfect face, it really makes me feel bad. I don't envy this girl. I think it's great that she has such beauty but I do wish I could have clear skin.
Women tend to compare more than men. We compare almost every thing. Who's more popular? Who's taller? Who's got a better body? On and on it goes but the last time I looked, comparing myself to someone else hasn't got me far. It has just made me not want to be me or it has decreased my self-confidence.
Almost all the time I meet people who are better than me. Better writers, better bloggers, better mothers, better cooks, better home makers, better dressers, better disciplined, better wives- it goes on and on.
What can be the solution to this? How can I not compare myself to others?
1. Well the reality is that there will always be others better than me at something. I can just accept this.
2. In the area of looks, I can just be thankful for how God has me.
3. I can strive to do things better which are important for my family and I- like being a better home maker and learning from those who are better than me in this area.
4. I can decide on areas I can work on and work on these in a proactive manner.
5. I need to realize and remind myself daily to keep my eyes on God and to listen to what his word tell me about Me. God tells me I am wonderfully made. He tells me I am unique. He tells me He has a purpose for me and that He will fulfill that purpose. He tells me that the plans He has for me are for me to prosper, plans to build me up.
6. I need to not listen to the thoughts that tell me that another person is better than me just because they are prettier. This thought is not based on the Bible so is therefore untrue. Same goes for thinking someone is better than me because they are more accomplished.
Well, I do have more to write in this area. It is something that I struggle with a lot and I have for the first time become vulnerable enough to write it down.
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Arps, I'm so glad that you shared this and got it out. Cause doesn't it sound silly when you actually verbalize it...Our society makes us focus so much on our looks and appearance..and ofcourse there are always going to be those who have the things we want. But you are right, you are created perfect and beautiful by the Lord and you really are just so beautiful! I love you. I know I haven't called in a while..I will call this weekend. Love you lots.
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